I've recently been testing something, just to see if it worked better for me. I made a playlist of nature sounds instead of music to work to, since my computer work requires my full attention, and it worked beautifully. I still listened to the nature sounds, but even when they stimulated me, they never drew me away from where I needed to keep my mental focus. I've also been collecting those for times when my mind gets too active to settle down at night. There was one night when I was really struggling settling down, but the sounds, particularly of the birds, finally settled me down, and I actually slept in that day, which is super unusual for me. I've also been enjoying here and there some complete silence, and reexperiencing the beauty of it has been wonderful.
I also attended a class under the subject of using technology appropriately. There were several points brought up, and one of those points concerns the effect of devices on people's mental health, and how their ability to deal with boredom has been an issue. Basically, there were two ways to react: first, to withdraw back in to more screen time; second, to find something to do that may be uncomfortable at first, but in the long term will acquire experience, learning, and even growth. I think that was the basic message. I've caught myself doing some of that withdrawal at times, but I've learned to recognize when that is taking too much of my time. It was mentioned that part of the discomfort and boredom may be caused by having to face quiet or silent moments when there is stillness, which more people are struggling with being able to handle well, thus leading to increased anxiety and struggles with emotional and mental health. It makes me sad to think how many people have not learned the beauty of a quiet and still moment, because of a device addiction.
Some of the most beautiful moments in life involve stillness. I've had enough experience now with watching loved ones die to know how beautiful those last moments together are. Times I've spent with my disabled brother that have provided insights to me about life were in quiet moments together. I do my best writing and reflecting in silence. Forgive me for including this also, but some of the most memorable moments I had at Disneyland had nothing to do with the performances or the rides, but those few simple moments of reflection and interaction when somehow silence (with few spoken words) turned powerful--at least for me. I can't speak for the others that may have been involved in the interaction, but I hope so. I've joked about it before--not on here, just to myself--that I'm a master at silence.
Why do I value silence so much? It's my safe place: A place where my thoughts aren't muddled; A place where I can sort through my feelings; Most of all, I can feel at peace, not only with the aspects of life, but also with myself. It's amazing. You should try it out some time.
